Do you remember the shape sorting games we used to play with as kids? You know, the ones with the different colored shapes and matching holes that each shape fit in? Do you remember the one kid who was always trying to shove a shape in a spot it didnât belong? Were you that kid? I was.
I was always determined to get the square in the round hole. I just knew I could make it work. But instead of hearing, âWow, Jess! That was so creative!â I was told in so many different ways, âThatâs not how itâs done.â
The world is black and white, and weâre either right or wrong. But not everyone fits into the same mold; some of us stand out. As a superhero, youâre one of the ones who goes above and beyond, doesnât accept the norm, and stands out among peers for being the one that others can look to and rely on to save the day.
Maybe you donât think of yourself as a superhero. If youâre the go-to person in your circle, the one who always has it all together or figures out how to grow through what you go throughâthe Fix-It Felix in this Wreck-It Ralph worldâyou are, by all means, an everyday superhero. But what happens when it all becomes too much?
Maybe, like me, you’ve encountered the perpetual superhero struggle: youâve become a yes (wo)man, always answering the call to save the day, while continuously feeling unseen, unheard, and undervalued…. and no one gets it. You canât fathom hanging up your cape or saying no when you see the beacon in the sky summoning your help for fear that the world as you know it may fall apart. But now, your cape has holes in it from the times someone close to you punched through it. It is frayed from overuse, torn by broken trust, and singed by the burns of disappointment. Itâs heavier than ever and has been weighing you down for longer than you can remember.
But wait! You are a super successful (insert your many titles, professional and personal accomplishments here). No one expects to see superheroes struggle. Remember this: You are human first, hero second.
It takes a lot to admit to yourself that this cape that once was an attribute of who you are is now the shining definition of who you have to be. But when you pull down the pretense and embrace transparency, youâll begin to feel strong in your own skin againâno cape required.
It was your hero-size heart that drove you to find solutions and make things work, even when the world said it couldnât be done. You stood out among others and soon found yourself being hailed as the hero they neededâbut in your humanity struggling to hold everything together. And then the worst partâ¦ the fear that when they find out that you are only human, youâll lose it allâyour status, friends, relationships, jobâeverything that holds you together.
But what if, when youâre brave enough to own your humanity and share it with transparency, you find yourself surrounded by others who will rally around you because they relate to your reality? What if you come to realize youâre not the only superhero who has fallen victim to the struggle, and that thereâs an entire community of heroes searching for healing, just like you, and you can all get better together?
Thatâs exactly what Iâm curating here. SW Social Support is a safe space built on three pillars: humanity, transparency and community. We specialize in mental healthcare for superheroes and offer therapy with you in focus. Here, you and your fellow superheroes can take your cape off, turn your feelings on and speak with transparency about your humanity in a community that cares.
With that being said, now that weâve gotten to know each other a bit more, kick your shoes off, take your glasses off, grab a cup of your favorite beverage, and let’s rediscover your superhero strength!